Betrayal of the Heart

How do you betray yourself out of old misconceptions of yourself? Are you worthy of love? Are you afraid to feel your feelings? Do you abandon yourself by procrastination?

How do you leave yourself by thinking that love is outside? Do you over give and push love away? Do you really believe that if you give enough or maybe if you’re the perfect lover, you will get the real love you always wanted from someone else?

Isn’t it interesting to consider that when you put the mask of being the perfect lover on, the other person never really gets to see you? So, if they do love you, isn’t the love based on a lie or a misconception? Isn’t the only chance that you really have is for love to be based on the truth?

Yet, if you don’t know how to love of yourself, how will you know if this is real love. What does it take to know the texture of true love based on the love that you have given and received from yourself?

For a child, attention is synonymous with love. A child needs to have their feelings validated. The misconceptions of your unlovability stem from childhood needs, wants, and desires. Do you really want a child to determine your lovability?

How do you take responsibility for yourself as an adult?

In order to take responsibility as an emotionally mature adult, you are required by your heart to feel your feelings to the bottom.

How do you do that?

Notice the dull ache in your heart. This is the doorway into your heart. Lean into the dull ache and all of the way into your heart. You may experience the need for love as a huge ache. Follow the need for love to its source. Yes, to the child within.

Speak with the child. Let the waves of emotion and images flow all the way through. Open your heart to your core pain and all of your emotional sensitivities. In your words, let the child know that you are the adult/nurturing parent they became. In your words, let the child self know that you love them and ask them to come close. You may need to go through an earning of trust process.

Emotional trust is built on consistency involving being true to your word. When it is safe for the child-self, feel your love and loving connection flow to the child-self. Notice how it feels to love yourself both as the giver and receiver. Now you have crossed the threshold of your heart. Now you are building an experience base of how it feels to give and receive love.

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With Loving-Kindness,

Mark

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