Reclaiming The Whole You

The shift from feeling like a victim of your own mind to being the nurturing caregiver of yourself.

Most people will admit that they speak to themselves all day long. Is it true that you believe what you think literally? For example, you have a thought about yourself: You are a terrible person, or you should really be afraid of what they are going to think about you now? When you take these thoughts literally it may feel very condemning. Imagine that these thoughts represent an unmet need. Then the question becomes which need and how can you nurture it?

Our personality is composed of many facets. These facets have been with you since childhood, some have been with you since adolescence, and some are new. Children, even our inner child, needs attention. For a child, attention is the same as love. And focused attention is a paving stone for nurturing the need for a meaningful sense of connection.

If you turn your mind’s eye and ear of your heart toward the source where the negative thoughts come from, with love, and a desire to connect with this estranged and unwanted aspect of self, then you might find a part of yourself that was never nurtured and feels unvalued and unwanted. As you receive this facet with love, you become a little bit stronger. Now you are the one that remembered her or him. This reclaimed facet of you is now a valued part of you. Now you have woven this fragmented facet into the fabric of your love.

As you gather a host of unwanted fragments including the inner critic, you may see that they can be repurposed to serve the greater nurturing caregiver in very positive ways. The critic can aid discernment. You also can grow new aspects to serve you like becoming the head of your central casting.

As you approach new vistas in your life, you may feel concerned and nervous because there are tasks that you never have been trained to do. Perhaps central casting recognizes that you need a team that includes a marketing wing and a branding wing, not to mention an administrative assistant.

I recently did just that. I saw the need in a world that is troubled with COVID, systemic racism, political fragmentation, social distress, social isolation, etc. And I knew that throughout my lifetime I had developed the skills and tools to serve a very troubled world.

So, I asked myself, "What would someone need to do if they wanted to bring these tools and skills to others?". Of course, I had my … “you don’t know how to do that” and I turned to that part of myself and said, sweetheart, come here … I love you… you are not responsible for this. I am. And I will find out.

So, I hired someone to build a website.

He did a fine job of building the website, but I wasn't satisfied. So, I hired a photographer with 20 years of experience in marketing. She referred me to a branding specialist that also could work as my administrative assistant. In less than 6 months, I have a website that meets my vision, a growing social media presence, 4 full classes teaching The Art of Connection and, one-on-one coaching calls to help people greater happiness and inner peace.

I am so happy. I'm living my purpose.

Be the nurturing caregiver of yourself. Identify your dream, build your team, and make it real.

You can book a FREE breakthrough call with me here.

With Loving-Kindness,

Mark