Whose Need Is It?

Do You keep falling short of the happiness you desire?

Are you authoring your best life or are you stuck living old beliefs that might be outdated?

What’s keeping you from the life that you desire?

What are you tolerating? Have you settled into a comfortable box that is not fully aligned with your current beliefs? Are you adverse to change and the unknown?

What if by identifying your earliest beliefs, that were formed in your first three to five years of life, you could recognize the patterns that were established for your earliest survival.

And in 2021, they no longer serve your growth and best interest.

You have grown beyond their limitations and you may need assistance in the formation of out-of-the-box and unfamiliar new ways of seeing the world and yourself in order to thrive.

What were the defining moments that helped to shape your identity? It can happen at any age through the emotional struggles that make you question who you are and what you’re doing with your life. It is through trauma and loss that you have the opportunity to dive deeply into questioning everything, discover the naked truth of who you are, and construct the life that is uniquely yours to manifest.  

When you are not willing to feel your feelings, you repress them. It is natural for you to repeat over and over to the same less-than-desirable outcome. You create a loop that is a reinforcement of your self-concept. Do you have the courage to feel your feelings and willingness to expose your emotional needs? Too often we inappropriately blame other people for not meeting our emotional needs but who is really responsible for nurturing your needs?

When a whale breaches, it is expending a lot of energy because it is grasping for that next breath. It moves over a ton of its body mass as it grasps for this breath. Like this breaching whale, our core emotional needs surface by doing whatever it takes to get your attention. Remember that this is your earliest child-self seeking what children need as a lifeline. A child needs attention. These negative expressions, if we don’t take them literally, hook your attention.  

Your inner emotional needs are attention, inclusion, validation, expression, and connection. Giving these to yourself is your full responsibility as this is the specific location in your emotional landscape that needs you the most.

When you nurture your inner emotional needs, you are then free to live your life beyond this imprisoning pattern. In order to mature, we have to take responsibility for nurturing these. This will liberate your relationships from these false assumptions and disappointments. When your heart is overflowing with understanding and love like a chalice, then there is an overflowing abundance of well-being for yourself and everyone else in your world. Your heart is the Holy Grail.

Action Item: When the harsh voice within your breaches consciousness, take time to see where it is coming from. This is your emotional need, and it is doing whatever it takes to get your attention. Give it attention, inclusion, nurturing, love, and connection. Then notice how that feels.

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With Loving-Kindness,

Mark